Nonviolent Communication Quotes

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

We have to live over into the other; we have to dissolve with our soul into the other.

It seems to me that whereas power usually means power-over, the power of some person or group over some other person or group, it is possible to develop the conception of power-with, a jointly developed power, a co-active, not a coercive power.

You can have no influence over those for whom you have underlying contempt.

A good listener truly wants to know the speaker.

Don't do anything that isn't play

The experience of separateness arouses anxiety; it is, indeed, the source of all anxiety.

That's all nonviolence is - organized love.

We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

Marshall took nonviolence a step further - beyond Gandhi.

Everything has changed, except our way of thinking.

Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

Empathy before education.

Always hear the 'Yes' in the 'No'.

Depression is the reward we get for being 'good'.

Never do anything that isn't play.

This is who I am. Not everybody has to like it.

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it.

NO is always a YES to something else.

Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.

What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.