Ann Landers Quotes

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.

In the end, it's not what you do for your children but what you've taught them to do for themselves.

If you want your children to listen, try talking softly - to someone else.

The naked truth is always better than the best-dressed lie.

Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them.

At age 20, we worry about what others think of us. At age 40, we don't care what they think of us. At age 60, we discover they haven't been thinking of us at all.

Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good.

Let this coming year be better than all the others. Vow to do some of the things you have always wanted to do but could not find the time. Call up a forgotten friend. Drop an old grudge, and replace it with some pleasant memories. Vow not to make a promise you do not think you can keep. Walk tall, and smile more. You will look 10 years younger. Do not be afraid to say, I love you. Say it again. They are the sweetest words in the world.

Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say “I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.” Then repeat to yourself the most comforting of all words , “This too shall pass.”

Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

Anyone who believes the competitive spirit in America is dead has never been in a supermarket when the cashier opens another check-out line.

Imagine you had a bank that each morning credited your account with $1,440 - with one condition: whatever part of the $1,440 you failed to use during the day would be erased from your account, and no balance would be carried over. What would you do? You'd draw out every cent every day and use it to your best advantage. Well, you do have such a bank, and its name is time. Every morning, this bank credits you with 1,440 minutes. And it writes off as forever lost whatever portion you have failed to invest to good purpose.

Warmth, kindness, and friendship are the most yearned for commodities in the world. The person who can provide them will never be lonely.

What the majority of American children needs is to stop being pampered, stop being indulged, stop being chauffeured, stop being catered to. In the final analysis, it is not what you do for you children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.

Friends with benefits? More than friends? Don't sample the goodies unless you're willing to risk addiction and withdrawal.

The poor wish to be rich, the rich wish to be happy, the single wish to be married, and the married wish to be dead.

One out of four people in this country is mentally unbalanced. Think of your three closest friends; if they seem OK, then you're the one.

Remember, it takes two to make an argument. The one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.

It's one of the ironies of human nature that the most sensitive people are generally insensitive to the feelings of others.

Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It's the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.

I advise keeping four feet on the floor and all hands on deck.

When a person begins to yell during an argument, it is a tip-off that he is unsure of himself.

Television has proved that people will look at anything rather than each other.

Maturity is the ability to live in peace with that which we cannot change.

Maturity: Be able to stick with a job until it is finished. Be able to bear an injustice without having to get even. Be able to carry money without spending it. Do your duty without being supervised.

Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. The mature person can face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without collapsing or complaining. He/she knows he cannot have everything his/her own way every time. He/she is able to defer to circumstances, to other people-and to time. He/she knows when to compromise and is not too proud to do so.

If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.

No one has the right to destroy another person's belief by demanding empirical evidence.

Class is the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.

A cigarette is a roll of paper, tobacco, and drugs, with a small fire on one end and a large fool at the other. Some of its chief benefits are cancer of the lips and stomach, softening of the brain, funeral procesions, and families shrouded in gloom and grief. Although a great many people know this, they still smoke in order to appear sophisticated.

No one can take advantage of you without your permission.

Rose-colored glasses are never made in bifocals. Nobody wants to read the small print in dreams.

Sensual pleasures have the fleeting brilliance of a comet; a happy marriage has the tranquillity of a lovely sunset.

At every party there are two kinds of people - those who want to go home and those who don't. The trouble is, they are usually married to each other.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. ... Love is content with the present, it hopes for the future, and it doesn't brood over the past. It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

Nobody says you must laugh, but a sense of humor can help you overlook the unattractive, tolerate the unpleasant, cope with the unexpected, and smile through the day.

Love is friendship that has caught fire . . .

When life's problems seem overwhelming, look around and see what other people are coping with. You may consider yourself fortunate.

The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven't thought of yet.

People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim.

If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things that are missing. If you don't have love in your life, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.

All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership.

Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead, that is where your future lies.

Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead; that is where your future lies. Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them. People who care about each other enjoy doing things for one another. There are really only three types of people: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who say, What happened?

If you have a good name, if you are right more often than you are wrong, if your children respect you, if your grandchildren are glad to see you, if your friends can count on you and you can count on them in time of trouble, if you can face your God and say "I have done my best," then you are a success.

Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.

Don't indulge in gossip. ... People who throw mudballs always manage to end up getting a little on themselves.

Don't give up. Keep going. there is always a chance that you stumble onto something terrific. I have never heard of anyone stumbling over anything while he was sitting down