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No matter what your current ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.
Carol S. Dweck
No matter what capacity you may possess, hard work is what sparks that capability and transforms it into success.
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If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children donât have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.
Carol S. Dweck
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In a growth mindset, challenges are exciting rather than threatening. So rather than thinking, oh, I'm going to reveal my weaknesses, you say, wow, here's a chance to grow.
Carol S. Dweck
In a growth mindset, difficulties are thrilling instead of intimidating. Thus rather than believing, oh, I'm going to uncover my deficiencies, you state, wow, here's an opportunity to expand.
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When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world (the world of fixed traits) success is about proving youâre smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other (the world of changing qualities) itâs about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself.
Carol S. Dweck
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Effort is one of those things that gives meaning to life. Effort means you care about something, that something is important to you and you are willing to work for it.
Carol S. Dweck
Toil is one of those things that lends purpose to life. Toil indicates you are passionate about something, that something is important to you and you are prepared to strive for it.
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The best thing parents can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning.
Carol S. Dweck
Encourage offspring to relish obstacles, be fascinated by missteps, savor exertion, and continue educating themselves.
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What did you learn today? What mistake did you make that taught you something? What did you try hard at today?
Carol S. Dweck
'What wisdom did you garner today? What misstep showed you a valuable lesson? What endeavour did you exert yourself with?'
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crucial,â writes Dweck. âIn the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail â or if youâre not the best â itâs all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what theyâre doing regardless of the outcome.
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Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when itâs not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.
Carol S. Dweck
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Test scores and measures of achievement tell you where a student is, but they don't tell you where a student could end up.
Carol S. Dweck
'Grades are a reflection of current performance, yet they do not determine the ultimate potential of an individual.'
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Failure is information-we label it failure, but it's more like, 'This didn't work, I'm a problem solver, and I'll try something else.'
Carol S. Dweck
'Misadventure is discernment-we characterize it as misadventure, yet it's all the more similar to, 'This wasn't effective, I'm an issue solver, and I'll attempt something different.'
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Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?
Carol S. Dweck
Invest your energy in self-improvement instead of reiterating your accomplishments.
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Important achievements require a clear focus, all-out effort, and a bottomless trunk full of strategies. Plus allies in learning.
Carol S. Dweck
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For twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value.
Carol S. Dweck
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The wrong kind of praise creates self-defeating behavior. The right kind motivates students to learn.
Carol S. Dweck
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Exceptional people convert life's setbacks into future successes.
Carol S. Dweck
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Becoming is better than being
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We like to think of our champions and idols as superheroes who were born different from us. We donât like to think of them as relatively ordinary people who made themselves extraordinary.
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It is not always people who start out the smartest who end up the smartest.
Carol S. Dweck
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Youâre in charge of your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way.
Carol S. Dweck
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The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it's not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset.
Carol S. Dweck
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You have to work hardest for the things you love most.
Carol S. Dweck
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Picture your brain forming new connections as you meet the challenge and learn. Keep on going.
Carol S. Dweck
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Praising childrenâs intelligence harms their motivation and it harms their performance.
Carol S. Dweck
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What did you try hard at today?
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Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.
Carol S. Dweck
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So what should we say when children complete a taskâsay, math problemsâquickly and perfectly? Should we deny them the praise they have earned? Yes. When this happens, I say, âWhoops. I guess that was too easy. I apologize for wasting your time. Letâs do something you can really learn from!
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Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?â If so, he says, âYou may be outscored but you will never lose.
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Teaching is a wonderful way to learn.
Carol S. Dweck
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...when people already know they're deficient, they have nothing to lose by trying.
Carol S. Dweck
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Research shows that normal young children misbehave every three minutes.
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I donât mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel Iâve done as well as I possibly could.
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Vowing, even intense vowing, is often useless. The next day comes and the next day goes. What works is making a vivid, concrete plan.
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This is hard. This is fun.
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I believe ability can get you to the top,â says coach John Wooden, âbut it takes character to keep you there.⊠Itâs so easy to ⊠begin thinking you can just âturn it onâ automatically, without proper preparation. It takes real character to keep working as hard or even harder once youâre there. When you read about an athlete or team that wins over and over and over, remind yourself, âMore than ability, they have character.'
Carol S. Dweck
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Itâs for you to decide whether change is right for you right now. Maybe it is, maybe it isnât. But either way keep the growth mindset in your thoughts then when you bump up against obstacles you can turn to it, it will always be there for you showing you a path into the future.
Carol S. Dweck
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What can I learn from this? What will I do next time I'm in this situation?
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Don't judge. Teach. It's a learning process.
Carol S. Dweck
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Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.
Carol S. Dweck
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Wow, that's a really good score. You must have worked really hard.
Carol S. Dweck
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More and more research is suggesting that, far from being simply encoded in the genes, much of personality is a flexible and dynamic thing that changes over the life span and is shaped by experience.
Carol S. Dweck
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Your failures and misfortunes don't threaten other people. . .It's your assets and your successes that are problems for people who derive their self-esteem from being superior.
Carol S. Dweck
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Why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you?
Carol S. Dweck
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A company that cannot self-correct cannot thrive.
Carol S. Dweck
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The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.
Carol S. Dweck