1.
If there is one lesson that I have learned during my life as an analyst, it is the lesson that what my patients tell me is likely to be true - that many times when I believed that I was right and my patients were wrong, it turned out, though often only after a prolonged search, that my rightness was superficial whereas their rightness was profound.
Heinz Kohut
2.
...man can no more survive psychologically in a psychological milieu that does not respond empathetically to him, than he can survive physically in an atmosphere that contains no oxygen.
Heinz Kohut
...man can no more thrive emotionally in an ambience that is unsympathetic to him, than he can survive physiologically in a medium lacking oxygen.
3.
The empathic understanding of the experience of other human beings is as basic an endowment of man as his vision, hearing, touch, taste and smell
Heinz Kohut
4.
Empathy is the capacity to think and feel oneself into the inner life of another person.
Heinz Kohut
5.
The musician of disordered sound, the poet of decomposed language, the painter and sculptor of the fragmented visual and tactile world: they all portray the break up of the self and, through the rearrangement and reassemble of the fragments, try to create new structures that possess wholeness, perfection, new meaning.
Heinz Kohut
6.
The mark of a good marriage is when only one of you goes crazy at a time!
Heinz Kohut