Karrine Steffans Quotes

Confessions of a Video Vixen' is not a book about my encounters with celebrities, or anyone else for that matter. It is my life story, thus far, which just so happens to include some people you may have heard of.

I remember sitting in my room and thinking of where it all went wrong and how I ended up losing control of everything, and I realized I hadn't asked myself one question: And then what? That was my most important lesson. I learned to think about the consequences before the action and that saves me, to this day, from a lot of trouble. If you play it down the line, you'll start making better choices.

Life is a lot easier when you realize that you're not in control of it all.

I have me. I have God. I have my son. Everything else is extra.

We know what happens to little black boys that have no dads; we've heard that, we get it. But no one is really saying that young women who are born without fathers have real serious issues especially when their mother had no father and the mother has issues.

When it comes to my interpersonal relationships with men, of course, a lifetime of abuse vastly affected everything I did. I always came from a place of abuse, actually wanting, welcoming, and accepting it because that was my language. It never seemed strange to me.

People are attracted to your light because they want it for themselves. It's like fireflies. When we were kids in New York, we would visit my dad and catch fireflies because we were so attracted to their light. Put them in jars next to our bed, and then they'd die. Then we'd go out the next night and get another firefly. That's how people are.

Live life without being afraid of judgment from others because judgment from other sinners is invalid.

People don't change at their core. If you're a good person, you are a good person. What changes is our behavior.

The thing about loving someone is that you have to love them the way they need to be loved and not the way you want to love them.

Making bad decisions and choosing the wrong partner can ruin your life for a long time, perhaps forever.

I don't believe in regrets. I don't think regrets actually exist. I think regrets are things people make up in their heads. So, I don't regret anything. Everything turned out exactly the way it was supposed to.

When I die, the world is going to talk about me. They will never forget me and I will never have any regrets. If nothing else, the world will know I was here. I think that everyone should make their mark wherever they are. They will talk about you way after you're gone. Make your mark. Live your life.

Your man wants to know that there's nothing you wouldn't do for him - if that's your committed relationship.

When you start defining yourself, you put yourself in boxes and I don't want to be trapped in anything because I will always evolve - I will always change. It's like water. I take on many shapes. Everyone should be that way and not define themselves. I am everything.

I've never been a model, I was an actress for like a minute, but I've always been a writer. That's where I'm going to stay.

Every man is different. You can't generalize with men; you have to find out what your man wants. You have to listen to him when he's telling you what he wants, because a lot of times they're telling you, but you're not listening.

I'm surprised that people think they're important. To me they're not.

There are a few things that tend to infuriate me. One is ignorance, because I have become accustomed to speaking to very intelligent people like Gore Vidal and Al Franken on a regular basis, since dating Bill Maher.

I'm a power fanatic. I like to own things, and have them be mine. Acting doesn't belong to you, if you're not the writer or the director.

People who know me, recognize a definite difference in my poise and in my personality, because I've grown.

There are some people who are very powerful who I will never name, because I want to be able to work in this town.

I want them [female fans] to not be afraid to live life, to not be afraid to make bad decisions because there are a lot of lessons and blessings in those decisions. Sometimes, if you don't fall into the pit, you won't reach out to God.

When I'm in an interview with someone who is not intelligent, but flat-out ignorant, idiotic and stupid, or just an ass, it really gives me a headache.

Everyone is so afraid of making themselves look bad and of judgement.

I don't recognize hate, I don't recognize bitterness, I don't recognize jealousy, I don't recognize greed. I don't give them power. They don't exist to me.

Something that always fascinated me was the psychology and the psychology differences between men and women and how we relate to one another.

I've been writing since I'm five years old. I've been writing books since high school - junior high, high school. I write every single day. I never thought I'd be published.

A lot of times, women complain about men around them. It's not always someone else's fault. If you're the common denominator in 57 different relationships that didn't work out, then maybe, just maybe... it's you!

For women especially, its important to be financially independent.

In certain parts of the world - where I'm at right now in New York, you're going to pay a whole lot more. In Los Angeles, your average starter home is a million dollars. So I need more money in Los Angeles to live like a normal person. If I live in another city, Iowa maybe, I wouldn't need as much.

The entertainment industry is vast and is a reflection of the society we live in.

I remember specifically my mother telling me growing up don't put my business in the street. I was like seven, and I am like, 'What does that mean.

I never heard 'I love you' as a child. I never felt pretty or cared for.

I've always had a man's mindset, and that's why I mostly have men friends and that's why I've been around so many men. I've always been a tomboy. And any man that knows me will tell you I'm not a girly girl.

I am not, and have no interest in being, a musician of any kind.

My grandfather started his autobiography before he died; he never finished it. I would like to finish his autobiography because I finished mine.

When Goldie Hawn wrote her memoirs, no one said Goldie Hawn was snitching. When Jane Fonda wrote her memoirs, no one said Jane Fonda was snitching.

Any good writer is going to be well-received and is going to not be well-received; that's how you know you're a great writer.

I don't even listen to hip-hop anymore. All my friends are white and over 40.

Everyone in Hollywood is seeking fame and fortune; it's in the water here. Everyone from young women to old men - they all want it.

Truth and honesty is my thing.

Everyone has to grow up and that's what we're all doing; we're just doing it in different ways.

I am not to be defined. I am all things. I am the queen of everything. Every woman is.

The saying is, life is short, but what if it's not? But if life is short, is this how you would like to spend your last days? And if life is long, is this how you want to spend 50, 60, or 70 years? Being ashamed? Being quiet? Hoping no one notices you? Not telling the truth? Walking around heavy? If I die in my sleep tonight, God forbid, I am happy with how I've lived my life. I've lived it truthfully.

My happiness came from learning my purpose, which is to be honest and to share things that normal people probably wouldn't share, in an effort to support and uplift other women. I love that my journey gives other women hope, letting them see how far God can bring a soul.

There are a lot of things that I have not shared that I will never share. I do have a personal private life.

It's my job to turn my mess [life] into a message and never regret a day of my life.

Learning unconditional love helped me have healthier relationships, including my current marriage.

As for the healing, that comes from the writing, from living and writing. That's my catharsis. That's why I never regret sharing because it's part of my healing!