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Swiss-English philosopher and author, Birth: 20-12-1969 Alain de Botton Quotes
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneventful nice days.
Alain de Botton

You often have to be buffeted by life to appreciate the beauty of daffodils, sunsets and peaceful good days.
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Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.
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The challenge for a human now is to be more interesting to another than his or her smartphone.
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It looks like it’s wasting time, but literature is actually the ultimate time-saver - because it gives us access to a range of emotions and events that it would take you years, decades, millennia to try to experience directly. Literature is the greatest reality simulator - a machine that puts you through infinitely more situations than you can ever directly witness.
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.
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Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere-and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.
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Quote Topics by Alain de Botton: People Thinking Book Believe Writing Art Ideas Beautiful May Mind Anxiety Self World Envy Pain Lying Men Home Mean Might Important Journey Falling In Love Two Trying Feelings Giving Heart Reality Looks
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Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't - surrender to events with hope.
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One of the better guarantors of ending up in a good relationship: an advanced capacity to be alone.
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To one's enemies: "I hate myself more than you ever could.
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The only people we can think of as normal are those we don't yet know very well.
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Out of the millions of people we live among, most of whom we habitually ignore and are ignored by in turn, there are always a few that hold hostage our capacity for happiness, whom we could recognize by their smell alone and whom we would rather die than be without.
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We fall in love because we long to escape from ourselves with someone as beautiful, intelligent, and witty as we are ugly, stupid, and dull. But what if such a perfect being should one day turn around and decide they will love us back? We can only be somewhat shocked-how can they be as wonderful as we had hoped when they have the bad taste to approve of someone like us?
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We don't really learn anything properly until there is a problem, until we are in pain, until something fails to go as we had hoped ... We suffer, therefore we think.
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Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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A good half of the art of living is resilience.
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The happiness that may emerge from taking a second look is central to Proust's therapeutic conception. It reveals the extent to which our dissatisfactions may be the result of failing to look properly at our lives rather than the result of anything inherently deficient about them.
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What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we're truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it's bad enough not getting what you want, but it's even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn't, in fact, what you wanted all along.
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Socrates, on being insulted in the marketplace, asked by a passerby, "Don't you worry about being called names?" retorted, "Why? Do you think I should resent it if an ass had kicked me?
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We often lose our tempers not with those who are actually to blame; just with those who love us enough to forgive us our foul moods.
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.
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Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuous anxiety and gloom.
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Our sadness won’t be of the searing kind but more like a blend of joy and melancholy: joy at the perfection we see before us, melancholy at an awareness of how seldom we are sufficiently blessed to encounter anything of its kind. The flawless object throws into perspective the mediocrity that surrounds it. We are reminded of the way we would wish things always to be and of how incomplete our lives remain.
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The largest part of what we call 'personality' is determined by how we've opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness".
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we are.
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The more closely we analyze what we consider 'sexy,' the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.
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Maturity: the confidence to have no opinions on many things.
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Most of us still caged within careers chosen for us by our not entirely worldly 18-22 year old selves.
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The difference between hope and despair is a different way of telling stories from the same facts.
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Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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The only way to be happy is to realise how much depends on how you look at things
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Everyone wants a better life: very few of us want to be better people.
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To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our own attraction to them. Albert Camus suggested that we fall in love with people because, from the outside, they look so whole, physically whole and emotionally 'together' - when subjectively we feel dispersed and confused. We would not love if there were no lack within us, but we are offended by the discovery of a similar lack in the other. Expecting to find the answer, we find only the duplicate of our own problem.
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Most anger stems from feelings of weakness, sadness and fear: hard to remember when one is at the receiving end of its defiant roar.
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Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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We need objects to remind us of the commitments we've made. That carpet from Morocco reminds us of the impulsive, freedom-loving side of ourselves we're in danger of losing touch with. Beautiful furniture gives us something to live up to. All designed objects are propaganda for a way of life.
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Every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess.
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Most of our childhood is stored not in photos, but in certain biscuits, lights of day, smells, textures of carpet.
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People who hold important positions in society are commonly labelled "somebodies," and their inverse "nobodies"-both of which are, of course, nonsensical descriptors, for we are all, by necessity, individuals with distinct identities and comparable claims on existence. Such words are nevertheless an apt vehicle for conveying the disparate treatment accorded to different groups. Those without status are all but invisible: they are treated brusquely by others, their complexities trampled upon and their singularities ignored.
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Mental health: having enough safe places in your mind for your thoughts to settle.
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42.
As adults, we try to develop the character traits that would have rescued our parents.
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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
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In the oasis complex, the thirsty man images he sees water, palm trees, and shade not because he has evidence for the belief, but because he has a need for it. Desperate needs bring about a hallucination of their solution: thirst hallucinates water, the need for love hallucinates a prince or princess. The oasis complex is never a complete delusion: the man in the desert does see something on the horizon. It is just that the palms have withered, the well is dry, and the place is infected with locusts.
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Envy: a confused, tangled guide to one's own ambitions.
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The more familiar two people become, the more the language they speak together departs from that of the ordinary, dictionary-defined discourse. Familiarity creates a new language, an in-house language of intimacy that carries reference to the story the two lovers are weaving together and that cannot be readily understood by others.
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Our capacity to draw happiness from aesthetic objects or material goods in fact seems critically dependent on our first satisfying a more important range of emotional or psychological needs, among them the need for understanding, for love, expression and respect.
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Maturity: knowing where you're crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.
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Work is most fulfilling when you're at the comfortable, exciting edge of not quite knowing what you are doing.
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never saved anyone from the disease.
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