Emily Giffin Quotes

You can only control your own actions. Not other people’s reactions.

A son is a son 'til he gets a wife, but a daughter is a daughter all her life.

Love and friendship. They are what make us who we are, and what can change us, if we let them.

...love is the sum of our choices, the strength of our commitments, the ties that bind us together.

Maybe the thing to do after you roll the dice-and lose-is simply pick them up and roll them again.

When you’re in love, sometimes you have to swallow your pride, and sometimes you have to keep your pride. It’s a balance. But when the relationship is right, you find the balance.

Maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.

The feeling I have reminds me of New Year’s Eve, when the countdown is coming and I’m not quite sure whether to grab my camera or just live in the moment. Usually I grab the camera and later regret it when the picture doesn’t turn out. Then I feel enormously let down and think to myself that the night would have been more fun if it didn’t mean quite so much, if I weren’t forced to analyze where I’ve been and where I’m going.

No matter what the circumstances. I am more like most men in this regard. No second chances. It's not so much about morality, but about my inability to forgive. I'm a champion grudge holder, and I don't think I could change this about myself even if I wanted to.

I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart.

Life's not black-and-white. Sometimes the ends justifies the means.

Hush little baby, Dont you cry, Dont cut your arms, Dont say goodbye. Put down that razor, Put down that light, It maybe hard but, You'll win this fight.

I think it's important to try to be present with whatever it is you're doing. And if you can't be present, take a break.

Although I'm sure there are plenty of tall, gorgeous, life-of-the-party guys who are also true to their wives, I happen to believe that a disproportionate number of them are cheaters.

I write about relationships and I try to create real-life characters.

This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So when the whole thing spills, you aren’t as devastated.

It always takes two. For relationships to work, for them to break apart, for them to be fixed.

This time, I whispered that I loved him too. Then, I silently listed all the reason: I loved him for his gentleness. I loved him for being an amazing catch yet still vulnerable enough to be insecure. But most of all, I loved him for loving me.

(mother)" She used to tell me to get my nose out of my book and go get some fresh air.

Recognizing that there is more heartbreak in continuous disappointment than a void.

Happiness is the best revenge, you know? Just be happy. It's a choice.

True love is supposed to make you into a better person-uplift you.

I try to write about real women, real people - in other words flawed characters. I find flawed characters much more interesting than perfect ones and enjoy the challenge of making readers root for them in spite of their unsympathetic path and destructive choices. Life is about the gray areas. Things are seldom black and white, even when we wish they were and think they should be, and I like exploring this nuanced terrain.

Nothing is ever perfect. It is what you make of it.

Change can be good but its always tough to let go of the past

His loyalty, so fierce and unwavering, makes my eyes water and heart ache.

He was uncomplicated and upbeat and easy. At one point, I might have thought these traits made him a simpleton, but now I think they just translate to happiness.

He who fails to plan, plans to fail.

But I am learning that perfection isn't what matters. In fact, it's the very thing that can destroy you if you let it.

In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief.

He nods, as if to acknowledge that endings are almost always a little sad, even when there is something to look forward to on the other side.

Everyone wants to belong, or be a part of something bigger than themselves, but it's important to follow your heart and be true to yourself in the process.

You can't quantify love, and if you try, you can end up focusing on misleading factors. Stuff that really has more to do with personality-the fact that some people are simply more expressive or emotional or needy in a relationship. But beyond such smokescreens, the answer is there. Love is seldom-almost never-an even proposition.

For true downtime, I enjoy going for light runs, having drinks with friends and going to the movies with my husband.

Sweetened ice tea is one of the things I love about the South, right up there with homemade biscuits and cheese grits.

You can run but you can't hide

The worst is when someone in your past trumps the person in your present, and you think to yourself: if I'd known this, then maybe I wouldn't have let him go.

There are no absolutes in relationships. You can't take anything for granted. You can count on absolutely nothing but the unexpected. You only get in trouble when you start thinking that you're some kind of exception to the rule.

Things are what they are and there's no point dwelling in the past or wondering what could have been.

Things certainly aren't the way you imagine them when you're a kid and dreaming big dreams about what your life as a grown-up will look like.

My head spins as I glance away, refusing to get sucked back into his gaze when so much is at risk.

And like a favorite old movie, sometimes the sameness in a friend is what you like the most about her.

I love him wholly and unconditionally and without reservation. I love him enough to sacrifice a friendship. I love him enough to accept my own happiness and use it, in turn, to make him happy back.

It's a funny thing - when I'm crazed with work, spending time with my children relaxes me. Yet, at the end of a long weekend with them, the very thing I need to relax is a little work and time away from them!

But now we have time. Endless time stretches before us.

When you are in a relationship, you are aware that it might end. You might grow apart, find someone else, simply fall out of love. But a friendship isn't a zero-sum game, and as such, you assume that it will last forever, especially an old friendship. You take its permanence for grandted, whuch might be the very thing so dear about it.

Life is about the gray areas. Things are seldom black and white, even when we wish they were and think they should be, and I like exploring this nuanced terrain.

People generally didn't cheat in good relationships.

My wants are simple: a job that I like and a guy whom I love.

i wish i could freeze this moment, somehow delay my final decision, and just hang here in the balance between two places, two worlds, two loves.