Rudolf Dreikurs Quotes

When children are allowed to help make family decisions, they tend to be much more supportive and happier with family life. Also when allowed to help make rules, they will follow them much closer than if rules are forced on them. All these add up to a happier home for all.

We cannot protect our children from life. Therefore, it is essential that we prepare them for it.

A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.

When a child makes a mistake or fails to accomplish a certain goal, we must avoid any word or action which indicates that we consider him a failure. 'Too bad that didn't work.' 'I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.' We need to separate the deed from the doer.

Perfection never exists in reality, but only in our dreams.

We can change our whole life and the attitude of people around us simply by changing ourselves.

We cannot protect our children from life. Therefore, it is essential to prepare them for it. Feeling sorry for children is one of the most seriously damaging attitudes we can have. It so greatly demonstrates to them and to ourselves that we lack faith in them and their ability to cope with adversities.

A misbehaving child, is a discouraged child

How many things would be different in everyone’s surroundings if we hadn’t lived? How a good word many have encouraged some fellow and did something to him that he did it differently and better than he would otherwise. And through him somebody else was saved. How much we contribute to each other, how powerful we each are-and don’t know it.

Whoever alters a person's expectations changes his behavior.

Children need encouragement like plants need water

A great many people fall in love with or feel attracted to a person who offers the least possibility of a harmonious union.

Man does not see reality as it is, but only as he perceives it, and his perception may be mistaken or biased.

The complaints which anyone voices against his mate indicate exactly the qualities which stimulated attraction before marriage.